When Rebekah made the invitation she let me know that she had more than just an intellectual interest in menopause and turning up the heat in all the right ways. As we became acquainted before the show, I knew we’d have a lot to talk about. In fact we talked for nearly an hour non-stop and I thoroughly enjoyed it.
I've included an audio player so you can listen to the first half of our conversation here.
Below are some snippets to give you the flavor. If you’d rather read the text instead of listen,
the transcript can be found at Fun, More Pleasure and Menopause: A Paradox?
This photo was taken while I was on the air live with Rebekah. We start out talking about my background as a sensual researcher and go from there into more details about pleasurable menopause.
Why I can talk with such confidence, it’s not an intellectual thing. I feel it in my body. I have to say, I know sometimes people think,
"Oh Yvonne, you’re from California and you’re so San Francisco. You’re kind of in this... You know -- it’s not the same for people across the US. You’re in this unique special situation."
But you know what? I’m a really down to earth, practical person. I mean I have a computer science degree. I ‘m not really into those kinds of -- I don’t know what to call them exactly. But I am a really practical person. Although I’m talking about orgasm and a definition of orgasm, I‘m talking about something that I feel, that I experience. It’s a reality, not just a play on words.
It can keep getting better and better. Why I say this, about me being a practical person, is because I just know there are women and men out there that think they can brush it off because I’m this San Francisco sexual person or something. But it’s not true. That part doesn't really matter so much except to say that I’m really every woman.
Every day I go through the same types of resistance that women have to having pleasure. I face those kinds of everyday decisions, those everyday choices that every woman goes through and every man goes through in order to have a good relationship. In order to have a good sex life. In order to have something that you can sustain over years and years and years.
That’s one of the things that is so fun about making this transition into menopause. Confronting that I thought, even living this way for 18 years, I really thought that I was going to be losing something. I mean, I’m losing my sex hormones, right? I‘m going to be losing. And I didn't even realize I had those kinds of beliefs until they hit me in the face.
When I tell the truth about what I’m feeling and just say it straight out -- Oh this is how I’m feeling today, I can enjoy the communication and the intimacy that comes with that.
It is the same in everyday in life, not just in menopause. Every day your moods are changing. Every day how you are experiencing your life changes moment by moment. So in that communication with my friend, when I’m telling him and letting him know what’s happening, that creates movement. It also moves the energy through my body. It moves the energy through my life and it opens up more possibilities for more pleasure and more enjoyment.
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